Friday 5: 5 Blogging Lessons I Have Learned!

FRIDAY 5 | | June 26, 2009 at 8:24 pm


Blogher is a month away but the blogging talk is filling the air. First I was excited about the conference and then the word got out about the parties at night. Can you believe some evenings have 5 or more parties? Then there are public parties and some private ones (ooh the tension mounts as to whether you can get invited to one). To top it all Mommy Niri got accepted to join the Ford Ride and Drive program, you will have to wait until I find exactly what that is before I can tell you. If that is not exciting enough there is even a tattoo discount for Blogher attendees…dare I?

All of this other talk is making me forget about the business of blogging, which is what I was going to focus this dose of the Mommy Niri Friday 5 series. I know I am no expert and neither do I profess to be but I will share what I have learned so far:

  • Share, share, share. How often do we as parents tell this to our kids (or maybe you just say it once, and it is just me yelling it at the top of my head) but I find so many bloggers act as if you are going to steal their thunder. Relax guys, there is a lot to go around, and more will come around if you pass it around. I have tried to ensure I pass on a new contact to someone I feel who could use it.  By sharing I don’t mean giving to some top person to be nice to them but by giving a beginner a chance. @AudreyMcClellan once responded to a question I asked about an event “Let’s make a pact, we will share whatever we know of events.” and that reminded me of the reason this Mom Generations mom is so successful.  While speaking about sharing, learn to spread the knowledge. When you have good tips, share them. @babySteph shared an excellent post on asking for sponsorships.
  • Cut the dead weight. I have learned to remove all things and people around me that bombard me with negativity. It takes a lot of energy to write (I won’t go on saying I work hard on the blog, most bloggers do so it is superfluous to state) and the last thing you want is people around you that bring you down. It is hard enough to believe in yourself to cut through some comments laced with (hidden) meaness.
  • Don’t just look up. I know some people who just try to speak to the people in the high rungs and ignore people they deem “smaller” people. It is important to hear others and not always think of being heard only. On many ocassions I have been speaking with a college student to later find out she works at some big company and I get in on an amazing project. Big people can get small and small people can get big. Bloggers like @katjapresnal and @BarabraJones are highly sought after people in the blogging community yet they make you feel right at home.
  • Read between the lines. Or just read the lines (in your email/twitter, etc). Too often good opportunities are embedded in a long email. Many people have a tendency to skim email which is a mistake. I would never have had such wonderful adventures as Flying in the Up chair as part of the Disney/Pixar promotion had I not read all my email.
  • Keep talking. So often we fail to communicate. I am guilty of it too like everyone else but I think I make a tighter attempt at it. Some people think I am really fast while some think I have nothing to do hence I reply quickly. I believe in dealing with my inbox fast so things don’t pile up and eventually get ignored. Always great efficiency of time to get the reply done so the other person is parsing the information and you can move on. People don’t mind these things being late or some project getting messed up, they care about not being told.
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    Excellent points! I was just thinking about the email thing last night actually!! (really wishing people would just get to the point so that we didn’t have to skim!)


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    Mommy Niri says:

    Absolutely agree. Often a gem of an important point is buried in a sea of nonsense. Unfortunately until people become more direct I need to do that.

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    Thank you so much for mentioning me in the same group with these other amazing bloggers. The email tips are great – I do struggle with email all the time. I often forget to answer people if I don’t answer right away, and then again – if I answered every email as they come and I read them, I wouldn’t get my other things finished..

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    Thanks for the mention! I mean that… it’s the bloggers who keep everything to themselves or “pretend” to share and help one another that end up missing out. These are 5 GREAT lessons!! I am passing this along!

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    Mommy Niri says:

    @Katja Mmm I guess that would explain why that mountain of laundry in my home never gets touched.. Just going to deal with email slightly less

    @Audrey, you bring up the interesting aspect of pretending to share. A really pity, feels pretty good to share.

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    It all comes down to the golden rule in my book…treat others the way you would want to be treated…oh yeah, and be respectful cuz your intern could be your boss tomorrow. ;-) Just sayin’…btw, so glad you came to the Diane Birch show and we got a chance to meet in person. Can’t wait to hang at BlogHer!!

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    Mommy Niri says:

    Love that Barbara! Funny how people forget something that should be pretty obvious!

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    Lia says:

    I agree with the above commentor, – it comes down to the golden rule. Getting rid of negativity I so so agree with, no use, no time for that non sense. It just brings you down too if you let it

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    Thank you so much for this great post. As a relatively new blogger, I found it very helpful and informative!

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